So I took Coby to see the new long term therapist on Friday. She asked me a lot of questions about Coby and how I discipline. First of all I was thinking what does this have to do with Coby paying attention? I told her I do time outs, I've taken things away like his bicycle, and he also gets spankings. When I said that she started shaking her head. Then I told her I also give rewards when he's good. For example, the last time I had to take Coby to the doctor I had to take all 3 of my kids. They were so good for me I couldn't believe it. I was expecting them to be running around and go crazy but they were so quiet and did what they were told, so I treated them to icecream before dinner. They liked that very much. I've tried giving Coby prizes like little toys from the dollar store and even Coby's grandma has tried telling him when he's good at school she would give him a quarter for every smiley face he brought home. Right now I can count how many smiley faces he's brought home. Which would be 7. Have of those were given from substitutes. Anyway, it all came down to the doctor telling me I'm not giving him enough postive reinforcement. I'm not to punish him when he's bad, but to enforce the good consequences for when he's good. I a little upset because ever since Tommy's been having to work out of town so much I feel like I'm two people. I'm having to be mommy and daddy and I just get so stressed out sometimes. I think the kids are just confused about who I am. I want to play with them and joke around with them but when I do that they think I'm playing all the time. Anyway, I have to take Coby to see the doctor every 3 weeks. I don't know how much longer I can do this. Only because of the money I have to spend and I can't get an appointment after school everytime. He's missed so much school already because of this.
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